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What does a vagina feel like? What does a penis feel like?

If you don’t have a penis or a vagina, you can only guess.

The penis and vagina are often often considered analogous. And both are active during sexual intercourse. An accurate expectation of what type of stimulation makes for sensual pleasure, creates sexual equality between men and women.

Why study sensation perception with sexual intercourse?

1. Guard Against Pain

Sexual rejection by a long-term partner can be one of the most painful emotionaI experiences. Why? Because a romantic partner is the person we most want to be accepted (Leary et al., 1998) and (Murray et al., 2006) the person we rely on most (in monogamous relationships) to give us a sense of our own desirability.

2. Greater Sexual Pleasure

When both parties can anticipate the pleasure of the other one, there is correct stimulation.

3. Greater Sexual Satisfaction

Confusion was another reaction. Some reported feeling confused that they had not read the signs properly. This confusion was often linked with a hesitance to initiate again in the future.

4. Orgasm Gap

A fourth group said they found this moment an opportunity to explore “the chase” with 32% reporting that they would do something to try to convince their partner to have sex.

So, which can ‘feel’ more:

The case for the penis:
1. Penis is more highly innervated than the vagina.
2. The trans experience?
3. Orgasm gap – women orgasm less
The case for the vagina:
1. Women have more options for pleasure

Beliefs about vaginal sensitivity:

Men may have a motivation to believe it. Penis is seen as the way to give women pleasure ()

Where do men and women get this belief that that vagina is more sensitive

Method

4500 heterosexual men and women were asked to report their perceived intensity of sensation of their own vagina or penis in a last session, and how they imagined their partner’s sensation to be more or less intense.

The sexual spark might feel like magic, but what makes the sexual spark come alive is quite predictable. If we are aware of the elements that make sexual feelings come alive and exciting we can determine for our own relationship whether it has a spark or lies flat. The couples that have passion in their long-term relationship work at it. They ‘tend’ to their sexual relationship and nurture it throughout the years.

Our data show that, if properly nurtured, passion can last for decades. Nearly two-thirds of sexually satisfied respondents reported that their sex lives now were as passionate as in their early days together; beyond that global statement, over one-third of sexually satisfied men and women selected passionate as the single best word (out of six) to describe their most recent sexual encounter.

The top three researchers of sexual passion have found the elements that keep a sexual spark alive in long-term relationships.

1. Passion and Sexual Satisfaction:

Fredrick (2017) found the factors that are associated with sexual satisfaction and passion in long-term relationships were:

Sexual variety.
Those who practice oral sex.
Consistent orgasms.
Frequent sex.
Communicating needs and preferences.

2. Sexual Passion:

Another study found that highest sexual passion is associated with:

A motivation to meet your partner’s needs.

3. Optimal Sexuality:

Sexual passion was found to be a part in “optimal sex.” And the eight elements most likely to contribute to that were:

Being present, connection, deep sexual and erotic intimacy, extraordinary communication, interpersonal risk-taking and exploration, authenticity, vulnerability and transcendence.(Kleinplatz)

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