How to keep the sexual spark alive?
The sexual spark might feel like magic, but what makes the sexual spark come alive is quite predictable. If we are aware of the elements that make sexual feelings come alive and exciting we can determine for our own relationship whether it has a spark or lies flat. The couples that have passion in their long-term relationship work at it. They ‘tend’ to their sexual relationship and nurture it throughout the years.
Our data show that, if properly nurtured, passion can last for decades. Nearly two-thirds of sexually satisfied respondents reported that their sex lives now were as passionate as in their early days together; beyond that global statement, over one-third of sexually satisfied men and women selected passionate as the single best word (out of six) to describe their most recent sexual encounter.
The top three researchers of sexual passion have found the elements that keep a sexual spark alive in long-term relationships.
1. Passion and Sexual Satisfaction:
Fredrick (2017) found the factors that are associated with sexual satisfaction and passion in long-term relationships were:
- Sexual variety.
- Those who practice oral sex.
- Consistent orgasms.
- Frequent sex.
- Communicating needs and preferences.
2. Sexual Passion:
Another study found that highest sexual passion is associated with:
- A motivation to meet your partner’s needs.
3. Optimal Sexuality:
Sexual passion was found to be a part in “optimal sex.” And the eight elements most likely to contribute to that were:
Being present, connection, deep sexual and erotic intimacy, extraordinary communication, interpersonal risk-taking and exploration, authenticity, vulnerability and transcendence.(Kleinplatz)
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